When I first got pregnant, it was only a few months after actively trying to get pregnant. At the time of our positive test, everyone who came to announce Christmas was important to me and my husband. I was only six weeks old when Christmas came, and we knew very well that the general rule was to wait until the first trimester was over before telling others you were pregnant. , but we also thought we had a good chance of getting pregnant. Download where no error occurred. Famous last words, right? In our excitement (and the comfort of loved ones who gather at the holidays), we said People.

It so happened that we got pregnant on Christmas Day for a lost, forced to take leave from the hospital, followed by Chinese food consisting of one evening and one evening together. But while all ways are said and done, we’ve learned that your relationship after a miscarriage can be stronger than it was before.

Despite the research that supports couples breaking up after we’ve had a miscarriage, my husband and I haven’t strayed far from each other. Just as our son grew up together as one, so too has the loss of our first pregnancy. Although I may have felt it was a lot different than my husband did, as I sat listening to the doctor, peeking through the day’s cries on my face and feeling so dumb in one of those hospital gowns that never closed properly it didn’t happen, didn’t happen, even Now we finally saw the loss together.

Because when you survive a miscarriage, without anyone knowing what you’re going through, your partner may be the person you’ll feel most comfortable talking to about the loss and your feelings. And since it’s potentially a new kind of loss for both of you, there is a kind of “bonding” that occurs when you all need to understand and move forward individually and as a couple. Let’s try. Here’s how coexisting with this traumatic experience can make your relationship that much stronger:

1 You both deal with a loss, not just one of you

Yes you have a body miscarriage the loss may be about to pass, but you both lost the growing baby (or whatever pregnancy both of you had). Dealing with that together, because the two of you whose miscarriages are affected the most, may bring you closer rather than apart, by the time you give up.

2 Gives your partner a chance to take care of you

There’s nothing wrong with just giving in to your grief and letting your partner be there to the best of his ability.

3 You see the other side of each other

When I miscarried, I saw in my husband a strength and maturity that I had not yet seen so many times before him, and even then I realized how important it was for him to be able to show those parts of myself.

4 It’s a new experience for both of you

As parents, my husband and I become increasingly close because fatherhood was something we didn’t really deal with. Likewise, if a miscarriage is something you and your partner have not experienced before, they may be affected by the mutual experience. On the other hand, if you’ve had recurrent miscarriages (seriously, can I send you some chocolate, please?), your connection with your partner may be enhanced by the fact that someone else can deal with the complex buildup of grief. He doesn’t understand, and the strange path of emotional ups and downs you two were together.

5 You want to take a step forward and work on your relationship when you get back

Taking a temporary break from trying to have a baby and focusing on your relationship may not be exactly what you want to do the moment you make up for the loss, again. Before trying (if you decide to), it’s surprisingly possible to spend important and valuable time with your partner.

6 They’re really the only one talking about it

Being there for your friends and family as much as you want well, that probably doesn’t happen. Your partner is the one who felt this loss with you and for many women, they would be the best person in your immediate life to talk about.

7 Avoiding miscarriages can make you stronger as a person

Overcoming the loss of a miscarriage makes you stronger in the end, and if you are strong as individuals, think about the embarrassment you both will feel when they get together.

8 Certain Unoriginal Truths Come Up In Your Relationship

I love the romantic and the superstitious when it comes to relationships, but sometimes life events make you realize that a high horse of perfection is all it takes to bring realism and realism into the dynamics of your relationship. It is necessary to go down. And the thing is, there is always infinitely more romance.

9 You’re Learning To Show More Expression With Your Partner (And Vice Versa)

Before my miscarriage, I had only seen my husband cry a few times. Watching your partner show feelings both physically and in his words is something to remind you of how and what raw feelings can be in a relationship.

10 feelings you can get over a lot together

Working through a loss like this isn’t easy for anyone, and if you’re like me, you probably remember it on every anniversary of the day it happened (every other day too. More). And that’s totally fine. But after working through initial feelings of loss, I sensed an air of optimism somewhere between me and my husband, that we can both endure and overcome other difficulties as well.

11 You learn to take care of each other and start caring

Like I said, there is nothing wrong with letting your partner take care of you. This gives you time to allow yourself some of your much-needed weaknesses and weaknesses (which the strongest people know are necessary to gain new strength) while making your partner feel needed and useful. On the other hand, different people are beaten at different times by miscarriages – there will undoubtedly be moments when you feel stronger than your partner, giving you the opportunity to nurture them.

12 Your partner is the one person you wouldn’t expect to hear from a cliched vibe

Your partner will probably be the one who knows it’s best to leave a tired feeling at the door and be there for you. It should be If that means you enjoy pizza and ice cream when it comes to Netflix, then so be it.

And if that means crying and talking to each other, that’s it. And if they run away and leave the “I’m so sorry for your loss” line, it probably isn’t cliched and blank.